Cyber Sex - Who does it and why?
Cyber sex.
The phrase typically conjures images of a man masturbating in front of his computer. Everyone knows only guys do that kind of thing, right? Given the popularity of Clitical.com and the questions asked here we know this is not accurate. But there are many questions that surround the whole idea of cyber sex. What exactly does cyber sex mean? Who does it and why? Is it for only the desperate and lonely? Is it cheating? Where can we get lucky? What can we expect from a cyber sex relationship?
What is the appeal of cyber sex?
The answer is that anyone can get some. We log on into a world where "getting some" is easy to do. As a fantasy tool, cyber sex is hard to beat. It enables us to be anyone we wish to be and to partake in any manner of online sharing, from simple flirtation to all out, screaming spasms of ecstasy. Cyber sex, or cybering, is so alluring simply because it is so damn easy. Why bother going out to a place with 200 strangers, gambling on the slim chance of establishing something meaningful with one of them, or the even smaller chance of anything resembling real sex, when you can go to a place with a million or so people, meet someone in less than 30 seconds...and have a solid 85% chance of scoring! How's that for odds?
Better yet, you dont have to go through the hassles of getting dressed up, applying make up, worrying about your hair or time of month and all that. You can be all sweaty in your flannel work-out clothes but you are wearing a perfumed, semi-transparent designer night gown. It doesn't get any better!
Cyber sex can be addictive.?
What exactly is cyber sexing?
Cyber sex basically involves two people, both sitting at their own computer. Sometimes there is the addition of web cams or web mics, but usually it's just the two people conversing back and forth with nothing more than a keyboard. The easiest way to describe cyber sexing is that they describe what they want to do to each other, what they have already done, or what they want to have done to themselves. The more descriptive you can be the better.
Who does it and why?
The allure of cyber sex knows no demographic boundary. It seduces people from all walks of life, spanning every conceivable difference in age, sex, religion, culture and marital status.
Is cyber sex only for the desperate and lonely?
While many of those involved in the cyber sex world are both desperate and lonely, there are just as many who live fulfilling sex lives. Why would a married person have to turn to the internet for sex? This is the real world, and being such, the reasons for wanting to cyber differ immensely. Some people just enjoy the fantasy aspect of it. Others enjoy exploring sexual scenarios, which they know their partners would never allow, or which they would never dare to ask of them. Some people consider cybering a safe alternative to having an affair. Maybe there is some dissatisfaction with their sexual relationship with their partner, however they love them and don't want to jeopardize that relationship by having a real life affair with someone.
So where can you get lucky? The cyber world has many places people congregate. Chat rooms, Instant Messages, IRC chat, web cams, dating services, and of course, message boards (although not much can get accomplished there sexually).
What about cybering with your partner?
Many couples enjoy this form of entertainment. Couples living together can spice up their sex lives by teasing and sharing sexual experiences without being right beside each other. For couples separated by distance, cyber sex is sometimes the only form of sexual communication they can have.
I have had cyber sex with my boyfriend a lot when he is off station in Germany. Mostly we do it through IM and we send each other erotic emails The downfall is that when I do that, I just ache for him even more...I start missing him a lot ?
My boyfriend and I live quite a distance apart. Because we dont have the luxury of seeing each other as often as we'd like, cybering has become a staple for us. I love the words he writes to me, how he describes just what he wants to do when we do get together is a big turn on ?
Safety Issues
I want to address some safety issues. Unless you know beyond all doubt everything that your cyber partner has told you is true, dont ever release personal information. In fairytale land we like to think that everyone is being honest. But in reality, the person on the other end of the line could turn out to be an ogre. Never use your real name as a login name, and never give out your real name, place of employment or address. It also helps to become familiar with the areas that you find people to cyber with. Becoming a regular tends to give a person a bit of credibility. If you are using a site that you have to register for, such as Yahoo Chat, dont put any personal information about yourself in the profile. Also, dont give out links to any website that may contain your personal information.
There are some freaks out there in cyberland! LOL scary scary people...esp. men posing as women...HEEELLLOOOOOOOO.....do they really think I can't tell??? geezzzzzz **rolls eyes**
You not only need to protect yourself physically, but also emotionally.
I became involved with a man who I met through a chat board. We started exchanging emails, then Im's, and I even met him in person several times. Over a year after we had met in person for the first time I found out he was still married. Because our work schedules didnt coincide well, most of our conversations were either late at night or when he was at work and I never suspected there was a wife. It took a very long time before I could again trust someone that I met on the net?
What happens if you get involved with someone who makes you uncomfortable?
Log off. If you choose to go back into the room, use a different sign-in name. If it is someone you have given your email address to, block them. Also block them from any messenger services that you use and dont accept any messages from them. If you think youre being harassed, contact the chat room moderators or abuse center.
For all its pitfalls, is cyber sex worth it? I think so, if only to have the experience. You may learn a little about yourself in the process. If you decide not to, you know youll be passing on a free source of stimulation and future masturbation fodder. Whether your experiences will be good or bad depends on the choices you make. I wish you happy cybering!
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