I would like to keep tabs on my teenaged daughter’s internet access. As a teenager she is curious and eager to know about many things, which are not right for her age. I cannot exercise direct authority on her as this leads to friction between us. How can I keep a watch without her coming to know about it?

Log on to www.kidsemail.org. The site has answers to your problem. With KidsEmail.org you can ensure your children are only receiving contact from approved people and that they are only sending approved information to others. One of the features on the site will enable all emails of your ward to be routed through you. The other features at kidsemail.org will enable you keep a complete check your child.

If you're just worried about her "knowing" about things, you may wish to consider what egregious violation of her privacy she will consider it should she ever find out.

If you're actually worried about her safety, and she's computer inept you could look into keyloggers but it's my opinion that you shouldn't go through her business unless the circumstances (you feel she is actually in danger) call for it.

If you ever even so much as slip up regarding anything that you shouldn't know about, you're digging your relationship with your child into a grave.

Finally, I'm sure she has access to computers elsewhere.